A
mother or father’s love for a child can’t have any conditions attached to it.
I know firsthand
of a case where a mother has totally rejected her son because he came out to
her. She is an old friend of my mother who had him out of wedlock. As a single
mother, she had difficulties raising him and left the baby sitting and for the
most part all of his upbringing to this elderly couple who lived next door to
her. These were wonderful people, the salt of the earth who imparted values and
a great deal of love on this little bastard boy without making any demands or conditions.
However, the mother’s story is totally the opposite, I
suppose that Alec being born out of wedlock bothered her tremendously and that
may have been a cause for her rejection. I can’t see it any other way since she
is not terribly religious and at times she has blamed herself for him being
gay.
It is a situation that is far too common particularly among
Evangelical-Mormon-Fundamentalist Christianists. These cult-like followers
value their religion so much that it takes precedent to family, community and
country. Even jobs they hold have to adapt to their quirks and idiosyncrasies
or they scream bloody murder, persecution, Christian bashing and the like.
But I don’t see it, I fail to see how the strongest bond,
the most intense love that exists, that of a mother’s love for her child can be
wiped out by some absurd and outlandish fabricated religion.
It is not like when you employ the reward and punishment
system while you are raising this child. In this case, it is something that is
born with the person and if you say to them: “I will only love you if you stick
your dick into a cunt” then you are incurring a grave mistake and betraying
that love of a parent for a child.
I am so tired of hearing of youngsters even in their early teens who are kicked out of their homes by fanatical religious parents to fend
for themselves. A lot of them end up prostituting themselves or into drug
addiction. If you destroy the support system a family offers then the
individual is devoid of self respect, self-esteem and since this individual has
already lost a lot…losing more is totally irrelevant.
I think that it is bad enough that these religious fanatics
will follow what their religions tell them about being hateful and passing
judgment on others…something the Scriptures clearly oppose…but to go a step
further and actually reject your own child because he or she is not conforming
to the criteria or ideology of a parent’s religion is preposterous and
un-Christian.
My mother’s friend Teresa called my mom on mother’s day but
I answered the phone. I asked if Alec had called her and she flew off the
handle. “He is the one who should be calling me” she said indignantly. I corrected her by
saying that she should have straightened out those differences a long time ago and accepted
what her son was…a homosexual, unconditionally and out of her own volition. To
expect her son to call her when she had totally rejected him was unthinkable.
Well, that was the extent of my chewing her a new asshole…I then gave my mom
the phone and they spoke for a while.
Ironically, my mom who is almost 97 has absolutely no
problem with the gay issue.
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